Jonas@week 24
I have not written for the past months. Posting our baby boy's latest pic to show how much he has grown. He is no longer a baby but a handsome lil'man.
Every morning, without fail, he will greet us with his wide hearty smile, making all things worthwhile.
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I start work next Mon, 17 August. Time flies, it's been 12 weeks since Jonas arrives on 24 May.
The past 3 months have been very memorable and our life has been turnaround 360 degree!
I have not been updating my blog, which is a good thing cos I have spent most of my time enjoying quality days with Jonas, Tinkles, honey and myself. My mom has stayed on with us since first month and things have improved alot. She's been a great help and my house was kept clean and tidy all thanks to her.
Now, what about the main star here - our prince Jonas?
Well, he has grown ALOT. He went from 3.3kg at birth, to 7.1kg now! He has grown cuter, looking more like Daddy (and even my mom... haha). He is more responsive now - smile heartedly when he sees us.
Jonas - when he laugh:
He still has a stern look, hardly smile or laugh and like to smirk. However one trick that never fails to make him laugh out loud - is whenever you carry him, look at his name on the door and call out 'Jonas' in his ears while bending up and down. He will chuckle everytime! Many a time, he will look at his name and smile. We're not sure why he is so fascinated and amused too, but it's adorable how he is reacting.
Jonas loves to bathe
He is a kid who either loves water or cleanliness. Every morning, at around 9-ish without fail, he would be impatient and cranky - until he gets his bath. He has recently outgrown his first bathtub and we've just gotten him a new and bigger one from Ikea. He loves the water and would sit still or kick a little while being splashed on. He loves watching whoever's changing him.
So far, we've hardly repeat his cloth cos he has so many cute rompers and tees! And his mummy is still buying! hee hee...
Jonas's Outing
Jonas's first day out, other than to the PD and visits to Ah-Ma and Ah-Gonf, is to Botanic Gardens. We brought Tinkles, my mum and him there for morning walk cum breakfast. It was a memorable family outing simple because we were picturing this in our mind since Jonas was in my tummy:) So to me, it was like an imagination coming true!
The next outing he had was to Vivio City. We found out from the short afternoon out that our kid lovessss to shop. And he always smile whenever we shop in Mothercare! strangely!
After Vivio city, we brought him to the East Coast Park one morning, as well as Parkway Parade for late afternoon lunch twice.
All in all, I must say that Jonas is a pretty homely kid. Other than the shopping mall, he doesn't really like staying long in other's homes - like my mom's.
Jonas - his playtime
His daily play routine is his cot mobile. Every morning, afternoon and evening he gets to watch the monkey, rabbit and lion move round and round with the music. He would be so amused that he cooed and chuckle loudly as well as moves his arms and legs very strongly!
His second play item is his Fisher-Price rocking chair, compliments from Uncle Chee Koon. Although he enjoys it lesser now, he still gets to use it a few times in the week. In the beginning he would fell asleep in it - well, not anymore now.
Third item that comes his way - a safari playgym from Daddy. He plays in it only 3 times, doesn't seem to enjoy it much at this point, perhaps cos it looks really cluttered and overwhelming.
The latest item we've just bought for him this week - a hanging mobile from The Better Toy Store. It's actually a red wooden aeroplane with wings and propeller that could glide gently so he's able to watch while he's lying down. We're putting it up tomorrow, so we shall see if lil' prince enjoys it.
Jonas: Feeding schedule
His feeding schedule has stablised at 3-hrly interval; breastmilk during the day and formula milk in the night. His timing is still on target, crying for milk at EXACTLY 3 hourly - amazing.
I have decided to continue the breastfeeding even after I start work next week.
Jonas - other milestones
At 12 weeks, Jonas has already migrated from 0-3mths clothing to 3-6 mths; newborn and Small size diapers to M size now
All in all, I have had a rollercoaster beginning to a very fulfilling 2.5 mths maternity leave. From my postnatal blues, my struggle with breastfeeding and supply, to bonding with Jonas and the insane jealousy over my mom... I am thankful that the past 4 weeks especially have seen me overcoming all the negativity and feeling very very happy at the end of the day.
I love my baby boy alot and I feel very blessed seeing how he completes our family.
Here's a flashback at how far Jonas has come...
24-June, Week 5 Day 2
Finally, our dearest son, Baby Jonas has past his first month on earth. He is officially 1-month old today!
Some of his milestones at 1-month:
- He weighs 3.9kg
- He is very active in his kicks
- His head is very strong - he could lift up his head when lying on his tummy
- He is responsive to movement
- He is responsive to familiar voices
- He reacts when his dad plays with him
I am so happy to see how far he has come because that means he is more stable a little and we can all look forward to his growth!
Over the weekend, we had an advanced celebration for him. Close friends and relatives all come by... The Elite Group, my family, Daddy's close friends. They all came with big presents, ang paos and what touched me most are their sincere care and affection for Baby Jonas. He is indeed a very lucky child. Pat got him a very meaningful gift - a pure silver spoon from Tiffany - to symbolise: ' Born with a silver spoon' - see how thoughtful of my friend!
I will take some pics of the gifts and post online later :)
These past 4 weeks have been very memorable and rather painful for me. My world was turned around 360-degree overnight. However, looking back, I wasn't fulfilling much of my maternal role other than providing the breast milk.
Next week, my mom is going to be away for a while, so I will take the chance to really do my best again and establish the bond with him.
Jonas is such a dear. He makes me amazed everyday even though I have not fully bonded with him.
'Jonas - both Daddy and Mummy look forward to a lifetime with you. Happy One Month Old precious!'
- Mood:
happy
Jonas is 25 Days-Old
We are all counting down to Jonas's first month party this weekend. We are expecting 80+ guests over to celebrate the joyous occasion with our baby.
We didn't planned for anything major - just 2 get-together sessions - lunch and night BBQ, as well as Bengawan Solo cake voucher giveaway. I wanted to include a Jonas's birth announcement card, but I need to make sure I can get it done like today! Problem is I have no idea how to use Photoshop and Daddy is too busy to do it! Damn!
Anyway, will make do with what we have.
We have also firmed up our Month 2 plan. Not getting any new confinement lady in to replace my mom, rather, I will learn to take care of Jonas myself when my mom returns home to settle the chinatown house (after the upgrading). I am thinking of engaging a part time nanny to come in for half day for a week or 2 - depending on how soon I learn the rope. For night feed, I will do it myself. Whenever needed, my mom can come back to back me up. Hopefully, during this period, we can have some family privacy.
I am so glad the first month is finally over! So looking for the remaining one month to really bond with Jonas and get the family back together.
Our first month has been such a whirlwind - my mom staying over, the breastfeeding regime, Jonas's needs, coping with Tinkles, etc. Both Daddy and I have taken a toll and although Daddy tried to hold it together, eventually he caved in as well and he was losing his temper earlier this week.
I think the whole experience kind of shook my confidence a lot. i was so lost these past weeks I have no idea how I survived it. To me, things just started to spin out of control the moment i was in the labour ward. There was no time to stop, think or plan. Thank God it's finally over and I hope Month 2 will be much, much smoother.
Anyway for now, we are all excited about Jonas turning one month - well at least I am. I hope he will be a kind and good kid and make us proud - just like Tinkles does!
- Mood:
calm
Jonas is 23 Days-Old
Jonas will be turning 1-month old this weekend... how time flies.
I thought I am starting the week great, with some minor hiccups cos of my engorgement and soreness. Other than that, I thought I was much calmer and more cheery... until this morning.
Jef was upset with me this morning cos he thinks I am depressed again. I wasn't. In fact, other than the pain that I was dealing with, I am alright in general. He did mention that I need to settle the plan for Month 2 - i.e. whether to release my mom and get another confinement lady in, my breastfeeding plan - whether to let Jonas go on full formula.
i admit i have procrastinated. Partly because I know my mom has to go back on a part time basis. I am still counting on her somehow.
I need to look for plan B but I am not sure how.
Jonas is 18 Days-Old
We are going through Week 3 much smoother than Week 2, at least for me.
Jonas is more settled into his schedule. He is more awake during the day, which is a good sign that jaundice is clearing from his system. Right now, here's how a typical day in Jonas's life is like:
6am: Feeding
7-9am: Nap / Silent awake
9am: Feeding
10am: Bath
11am: Feeding
11.30am - 1.30pm: Nap
1.30pm: Feeding
2pm - 4pm: Nap / Silent Awake
4pm: Feeding
4.30pm - 7pm: Nap
7-8pm: Feeding
8pm: Nap
11pm: Feeding
11.30pm: Sleep
2am: Feeding
2.30am: Sleep
6am: Feeding
He averages 8-9 feeds a day which we combine both breast and formula milk. Ideally I prefer to go total breastmilk but Jonas is very choosy even at his age. He prefers formula and drinks faster, sleeps longer when he is on formula. Anyway I am not going to too adamant about the whole breastfeeding thingy, whatever's best for Jonas and everyone else, I am fine.
I think if there's any imperfect with how life's been so far, it has to be my mom.
She is always telling me what to do or just doing stuff for Jonas when I am halfway through it - like feeding him, coaxing him, bathing him. I would really want to try to do something for Jonas on my own. I need to feel my own sense of control. I will never be able to feel confident and whole being a mum with her around all the time. I need my own time to bond with Jonas, so do the rest of our family.
I wanted our family privacy back but I don't know how to tell her. She seems very comfortable with the way things were going. Nonetheless I am going to tell her soon. Maybe I will look for part time maid to come in during the mornings to help with the house cleaning and bathing of babies, but after lunch, I think I can handle the baby on my own. I should anyway, no excuse.
Anyway, will see, hope I gather enough strengths to tell her and she'll be able to accept without taking things personally.
- Mood:
uncomfortable
Jonas is 14-days (2 Weeks)-Old
Tinkles:
I brought Tinkles for her eye check-up and the vet told me that we had over-provided her with the medication which leads to her current condition of not being to dilate her pupil. So now when she stares into the light, she cannot shut her pupil and that's affecting her visibility gradually - i.e. she could go blind in that one eye. I was so careless! The prescription says 5 DAYS! I totally overlooked that and have been giving her the medication for more than a week! Then, the doctor prescribed another medication to try and reverse the condition, hopefully that will work... I am praying hard. Poor Tinkles, she suffered so much these past 2 years. I cannot forgive myself if her eye was to become permanently blind. Praying hard for her now.
She has been very good since Jonas came, never gives us trouble or problem. No mood swing or hostility towards Jonas. In fact, she usually quietly wait for us to give her time and attention and follow us whenever we need to attend to Jonas. I can sense that she is lonelier, but she does make the best out of it - once again, her Tinkles's fighting spirit. I wish she was a real child sometime cos I am really very very proud of her.
Jonas
He is the same everyday - milk, poo, pee... Good news is, he is more alert more often which is a sign that the jaundice in his body is passing out successfully. In his quiet alert moments, he is very expressive. He loves watching things around him. It's interesting to know what he sees and what he is thinking. By Week 2, some of his more distinctive characters include:
- very impatient when it comes to waiting to be attended. Whether it's food or change of diapers, he wants it NOW NOW.
- he prefers not to be swaddle - he loves his hands free!
- he makes more cooing sounds in between rest
- he loves to stretch
Breastfeeding
I have switched to full express vs latching, which gives me an idea of how much Jonas is taking and put some routine back into my life. Deep down, I still feel like latching sometime, but I know expressing milk is the best approach for me. Only problem now is, I am not expressing as much as I would like to. For a 3-hour interval, I get an average of 70ML now, for a longer interval of even 5-6 hours, I get max 100ML - and these are amount I got in total. My nipples were quite swollen earlier but Honey helped me to soothe them with the cold cabbage last evening. Feeling slightly better today.
Currently, I have scheduled myself to go on a 3-hour pumping routine: 8am, 11am, 2pm, 5pm, 8pm, 11pm, 2am, 5am. I have not been successful in following all the timing, but I try to do as many times as I can.
Frankly, I don't enjoy this process at all. Latching is a much nicer experience, but I can't handle the erratic hours. So in order for everyone to be more ensured that Jonas is getting what he needs week on week.
Overall
I am feeling better about the slight depression already, thanks for the talk I had with Mabel and Nigel. They were like us, new parents dealing with all these new challenges. Somehow, both Mabel and I shared very similar birth and motherhood experience so far, thus she has been a great support for me when it comes to various matters concerning my adjustment to Jonas. If they are reading this, I just want to thank them from the bottom of my heart.
I haven't really bonded with Jonas at this point, I am not sure why. Maybe I will when he gets older. RIght now, Daddy resumes the role as his closest confidant. With me not latching Jonas, our bonding time has also been cut significantly. Nonetheless i will try to make an effort in coming weeks to spend more time with him.
I am glad we have survived Week 2! 2 more weeks to go before his first month...21 June to be exact. I am counting down to that as well as the end of my confinement!
- Mood: calm
Jonas is 11 days- old
I am still trying to establish a routine or at least some normality around the day schedule - like when to express milk, when to latch direct, etc. So far, Jonas is sleeping longer with a full expressed milk supply of 80-90ML. When he latches, he sleeps only about 1-2 hours and that was killing me especially in the nights. 2 nights ago, he was waking up like 3-4 times in the night and I only managed like 2-5 hrs of sleep daily!
Yesterday, I decided to express my milk and catch up on my sleep instead. I just let him be fed on formula while I take time off to express my milk and catch up on my rest. It helped. With a steady supply of 80-90ML, he was maintaining an average of 3 hrs sleep.
Other than milk supply, I have not really anything else to focus on. I am not really enjoying Jonas as much as I thought I would. In fact, I find myself missing our old life before Jonas - when there's just Daddy, Tinkles and I. Maybe it's because I couldn't leave the house or do anything else. There's nothing to keep me occupied except uploading Jonas's pics and chatting with friends.
Maybe things will get better when we have our own privacy after my mom leaves. Maybe things will get better when I have time out.
Anyway it's another 19 days before the end of my confinement. I look forward to Daddy coming home everyday ...
Right now, I have Jonas's first month party to plan so hopefully that would cheer me up... Daddy said we'll start planning something tonight. Hope that will take my mind off the week 1 mandane stuff.
- Mood:
bored
Jonas is 9 days- old
Yesterday, I survived a full day home with him and my mom. Daddy went back to office to work - back to his regular routine for a day.
Tried latching him more often yesterday but he gets hungry very easily. So I ended up feeding him like every other hour. Didn't get much rest at all. Jonas appeared to have some jaundice again, if it gets worse may have to take him to the doctor.
Somehow, the tension in the house seems stronger now, especially between Daddy and my mom. I think my mom's character, being the kind who rushes through her daily chores, may not be as merticulous as Daddy. He was not happy over the way my mom possessively wanted to rule over some of Jonas's caretaking matters, for e.g. whether to cool the milk in cup of cold water like Daddy wanted, or leave it to cool like my mom wanted. This morning, unfortunately, Daddy found poo-stained booty and Jonas's ass not being wipe clean properly. He was pissed again with my mom. Daddy is now considering getting a live-in nanny instead of putting Jonas under the care of my mom from next month onwards.
I am a little stressed over it - how am I going to tell her that? She is so ready to take care of Jonas when I get back to work. Knowing the type of person she is, any change in plan will somehow pissed her off - there is no room for explanation.
On one hand, I can understand where Daddy is coming from. Jonas is his precious and he wants to raise him the way he thinks is right, which is totally not like my mom. On the other hand, my mom, being experienced with childcare and all, wanted to contribute to taking care of Jonas, but her role was reduced significantly cos we are telling her what to do.
I can only hope that for the remaining 3 weeks, somehow, they managed to work something out - be it getting along with each other or being able to discuss this rationally.
Having a baby should technically bring the family closer, and not plant seeds of resentment in the family.
I am very sick of the tension and juggling. It's like stuck in a situation.
Right now, I just feel like going away leaving them to deal with everything if I could.
- Mood:
sad
Jona is 1-week old
Jonas is one week old today! He was officially born last week this time. I could still vividly remember the moment when the nurse puts him on my chest and I saw his face. I was very tired then but I remember I felt relieved to see him after enduring 24 hours!
Today I caught him smiling a couple of times. I thought to myself then, that his smile makes all things worth their while. All the labour pain, post-natal care/potential conflicts, etc - if I had to endure or make any change, it will be for him.
Milestones so far:
- He is very responsive to surrounding sounds - Daddy said that makes him very creative/musically inclined.
- He has no patience for slow action when it comes to preparing his food/change him
- He loves listening and bonding with Daddy and Mummy - but especially Daddy
- He has nice long and slender fingers
- He has nice big feet - all the better to travel the world with
- His jaundice has improved but we hope it will be cleared completely soon
- His milk intake has increased from 30ML at first 3 days of birth to 60ML and just today, he managed to consume up to 90ML of both breast + formula milk
- I managed to express up to 30ML of milk now, vs 15ML in the beginning at Day 5.
So all in all, Jonas did well for his Week 1 on earth :) We are very proud of him.
On the hind side:
There was a little tension at home because my mom wasn't happy with the way I behave. I don't know if it's my breastfeeding, my not eating while food is hot, or even falling asleep near dinner time or even some of the ways we took care of Jonas - I just know she is unhappy.
Jef and I I have tried our best to provide a very conducive environment for her. I don't think we need to put up with anymore nonsense. I will hold my peace from hereon, because I don't want any unhappiness or bad vibes in the house (she and her banging loudly on table, etc).
I can't wait for this one month to be over, so that we can enjoy our family time properly. I can't imagine her or anyone else coming into the picture for anytime beyond that.
Anyway, enough negativity, I am looking forward to a peaceful and happy week 2!
- Mood:
determined
Jonas had his first PD consultation today back at TMC. His jaundice level has gone up o 10.8, but since he is older now, he is declared clear.
We took the chance to have some private family time as well - without Tinkles though.
Jonas looked so cute in the car in Daddy's arm. It was a very hot day so Daddy had to hold a blankie over him while carrying. Our dotting daddy is once again showing his love for is buddy so uncontrollably :)
We weren't quite prepared with the typical diaper bag - I just threw some disposable diapers and wipes into my usual fashion bag :P We fed him before going off, thinking that we would be back in time for his next feed.
The clinic was packed and we had to queue for blood test. In the end, Prince Jonas couldn't withstand the hunger and we had to go back to his first 'home' - the 6th floor nursery ward to ask for milk. I thought it was pretty cool that the hospital provides that.
Anyway we were home after almost 3 hours and other than the jaundice test, we have also opted for another test to ensure his enzyme level is ok. The results for that will come in a week.
On our way home, we bumped into Vincent's friend, Patrick. Such a coincidence. Is that a sign from him that Jonas is his reincarnation?
Feeding
Jonas average feeding time is around 2.5-3 hrs now with a higher intake of 60-80ML. So far, today's routine has been: Breastmilk from direct latch + 60ML formula.
He pees and poos around 4-5 times a day - healthy :)
My milk supply is still around 15ML per pump, so need to increase that faster. He latches on me on an average of 3 hours, so I think we are on the right track.
He is a very impatient boy, refuses to wait for milk or get change! When he wants something he wants it NOW - wonder where he gets that from... hhmm.... :P I super love his look when he was being burped - he always has this frown and stress look - damn cute!
Tinkles
Tinkles seems to be a little jealous of Jonas especially with all the attention he is getting. She is no longer the first 'person' to be greeted at home.
Nonetheless, being the usual sensible self, she is really behaving well. She enjoys being around us when we fuss over Jonas, although she couldn't really see how Jonas looks like.
That's my darling gal. I will forever adore her - I just look forward to this confinement being over so that I can at least bring her out.
Summary
Daddy went shopping alone today and bought a new dustbin for Jonas (no prize for guessing what brand the dustbin is). Daddy has also fixed up the pictures and lamps we bought from Ikea. Jonas's nursery definitely look more complete now ;) Thanks Daddy!
My wound is healing nicely although I still can't feel or control my urinary ability. The massage is meant to help, so hopefully I can feel that soon.
This afternoon, my mom told me that Jonas has long fingers and toes looking very much like Vincent's. It would be nice if Jonas has some of Vincent's traits. Wish he was here - He is the great uncle that Jonas doesn't get to meet.
All in all, it's a great day with the family (mom included). We are more settled into the routine - especially for me. I am beginning to have more rests in between the feeds too.
I am thankful for this cute kid bestowed upon me. Having a cute dog like Tinkles is already a blessing. This is definitely a bonus.
- Mood: grateful
My milk supply finally came today! I was so happy! Not sure if it's the fernugeek, the papaya-fish soup - whatever it is, it's working and I am so thrilled.
My first pump is about 10ML only, but throughout the day, my breast was leaking as well (on and off). I am happy that finally I was able to give Jonas some wholesome natural milk. The breastfeeding process is tiring, makes me sleepy all the time. But it's all worthwhile esp when I see Jonas taking the milk :)
Today I started on my massage as well as Jonas's :) I got a lady whom I knew from TMC to do it and she seems rather good. She helped me to clear my wind and blood clot, massage my breasts to help clear my milk duct, and helped Jonas get rid of the wind in his stomach too.
My stitches are also healing nicely although the urinary incontinent is still a problem. Hopefully that will improve soon.
Today, other than small hiccups and stress over the feeding and fussing over from old folks who came over, the day passes smoothly. Jonas was well fed and he is reacting more with his cute facial expressions.
Tinkles is also settling in well with Jonas in the picture. We tried our best to give her the attention too. She is a good gal, left us alone to take care of Jonas and yet she would quietly follow us into Jonas's room to check on what we were doing. I am so proud of her!
In summary, we are thoroughly enjoying parenthood. Esp Daddy who is very much in love with Jonas. He is so into him, much like how I was into Tinkles before. I think he has taken on this fatherly role with great passion and I am happy to see him feeling so contented.
I am very blessed to have such an adorable kid like Jonas and a complete family with the Daddy and Tinkles. I have never expected it, and it was a miracle how much how joy he brought to us. I am truly thankful for God's blessings so far.
- Mood: happy
Today is Jonas's homecoming!
We had a call from the hospital early in the morning with the good news that Jonas's jaundice level has dropped to slightly over 7 and he is cleared to come home!
At the same time, I have arranged to see Dr Tan on my conditions too.
So today, it's a day to settle most stuffs - of course bringing home Jonas is the top on our list!
I drove to TMC with Daddy and my mom. It was very pleasant for all 3 of us to pick Jonas up. I can see the excitement in Daddy's eyes and on my mom's face. I felt so blessed.
Highlights of today:
- Jonas has his birth cert done today!
- He is finally home, settling well into his nursery
- He is more demanding when it comes to food - he doesnt want to latch on to me much longer cos there is no milk :)
- He continued to be bottled fed with FM
- I learnt that my urinary incontinent condition is not permanent, so with time and kergal exercise I will regain some urinary control
- Jonas smiled for the first time today - very slight though and he did that in his sleep
- We figured the usual feeding routine needs today - as a team!
Just before this night ends and as of press time - one more good news - I have my first 1ML of breast milk! It was more like colostrum but I was ecstatic! I could also feel my breast hardening. . keeping my fingers crossed... hopefully my milk supply is finally here!
I love Jonas being home, I can see him more often and observe all his little change in behaviour.
- Mood: ecstatic
Today we went home without Jonas. His jaundice level was 11.48 - over 10 so he had to stay behind.
Coming home without him allow us to rest well finally since the day of his arrival. But we missed Jonas dearly. Hopefully he can come home tomorrow.
The art of parenthood for me now is to focus on getting my milkflow going.
I just pumped for 15 mins - only colostrum, no milk still. With the pump's strong suction, I could only managed to squeeze out drips - so I really doubt Jonas is even sucking anything out when he was latching.
My plan is to constantly express for every 3 hourly - hopefully even getting Jonas to help me latch on :)
By the way, I discovered I had urinary incontinent - a rather common condition resulting from the muscle trauma from vaginal birth. Basically I couldn't control my pee. It was embarrassing cos I wet myself 3 times - too late by the time I rush to the toilet.
So postnatal was a little stressful for me - having to deal with all these issues.
Anyway take things as they come... I just know we will survive Week 1!
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- Mood:
depressed
We stayed on for another day and I am so glad we did! Jonas is diagnosed with slight jaundice today and I just realised what is all happening here over these past 2 days.
We had opted for total breastfeeding for Jonas, thinking that baby is able to live on the reserve that they have. It was ok yesterday. He was pooing and peeing regularly. But today, the PD advised that Jonas is having slight jaundice and it's because he is not peeing or pooing more today, in fact, only once in the morning. I came to learn that it's all because everyone is relying on my 'milk' to provide the baby with nutrients to do so!! I didn't know that was the case. I thought having Jonas latching on me was simply to help stimulate my milk flow!
Anyway, thank goodness we discover in time, by evening, we went ahead to give Jonas formula milk but with a cup. In fact, I think my milk supply will likely come the day after (4th day) or even 5th. So, I am not going to stress myself by making Jonas hungry.
My plan for week 1 is:
- Give Jonas formula milk once he gets home, while I continue my effort in stimulating my milkflow. That way, he will avoid crying and not run the risk of having gas in his stomach and build up colic.
- What I need is to make sure I express at least 6 times a day to stimulate the milk flow until it comes.
- When my milk supply comes, I will continue my plan to latch him on.- I need to remember that he needs 30ML per feed for his first week and additional 30ML for every week. Thus, it's important that he gets the right nutrients and enough food to keep him healthy.
Meanwhile, I need to think of a plan for his night feed - should I feed him direct? or should I feed him using bottle? Jonas is a smart kid. If I start him on bottle, he will never go back to latching - simply because he has to work harder for the milk supply. Should I risk it at all?
I have not had a full night sleep since Jonas came. If this continues, I am sure I may not last the long haul.
I need to discuss the breastfeeding l plan with Daddy before deciding.
Tomorrow we start Day 3 for Jonas and also marks the day we bring him home. Another day of adjustment. Let's see.
Jonas - let's make this first week work for us ok!
- Mood: cheerful
We survived Day 1 of Jonas's arrival - many thanks to the nurses and staff in the hospital, our friends and relatives who came to help.
We have Aunty Bibi and Aunty Adeline who helped Mummy with the delivery. Mummy's Gynae Dr Adrian Tan. The most important helper is actually Daddy
Highlight of his Day 1:
- He is being breastfed every 3hrs, getting all the important colastrum he needs
- He pooed once a day - something very important to look out for.
- He opened his eyes for about once today, half eye once today
- His head is rounder now as compared to when he was born
- He started crying more - very loud and ferocious ones - 3 major ones today, 1 with tearing :(
- He showed signs that he is a very impatient kid, esp when he is slow at being changed
- He showed signs that he loves being pampered and cuddled - something Mrs Wong said it's inborn :P
- He continues to react to our voices, esp Daddy and Mummy's
- He finally met both his grannies
- He received lots of flowers and gifts from so many people: Daddy's client Sharifah, Sparks Planners, Mummy's company & bosses (Craig and Lit), Mummy's ex-colleague Uncle Adrian, Uncle Lionel & family, Aunty Carol & family, Uncle Tom and Aunty Ed, Aunty Joanna and Shuhui, Mummy's agency IE Ideas, Flowers and gifts from Uncle Daryl and Aunty Joanna. On top of that, we had so many messages from friends to congratulate us - It was heartwarming see Jonas's being so loved by everyone around us.
Mummy received a surprised gift from Daddy too! Daddy went and bought Mummy sunflower with a very very touching message to Thank me for Jonas and what I had gone through. It brings tears to my eyes everytime I read the message!
We have also many visitors who came to see Jonas - other than Grandmas and old aunties and uncle, we have Aunty Carol, Aunt Julie, Uncle Pat, Aunty Joce + Uncle Dinesh, Aunty Edina, Aunty Joanna + Uncle Daryl +kids.
Jonas must be overwhelmed cos he was quite cranky a few times. We have also discovered his impatience at being swaddled, which really stresses Daddy up.
Daddy and Mummy survived Day 1 of total breastfeeding for Jonas right through the nights too! Hope he is getting what his body needs.
In summary, yesterday was a busy Earth Day 1 for Jonas. Good job lil'fellow!
- Mood: happy
Finally, Baby Jonas has arrived! He greeted the world on 24 May, 11.37pm, just before it hits past midnight into the next day. He is borned 3.37kg in weight, 51cm in length, 34cm in head circumference.
Daddy and I waited 24 hours for the whole labour process! For Daddy and Mummy, it was the most surreal and life-changing experience for us.
We were both very excited to find out how Jonas will look like, and he turns out to be an extremely cute kid! He has full head of black, lavish hair, cute pouting lip, rosy cheeks, long fingers.
Daddy Jef and Mummy Caroline are proud to present - Baby Jonas Tay:
What impressed me was the way he reacts to Daddy and Mummy's voices and the way he responded to his surrounding. He is quite a sensitive kid and up till this afternoon, he was quite good too.
I can already tell how special this kid will be to Daddy. The way he reacts around Jonas, there's already an extremely special bond between them.
SO far, while things are still kinda surreal, we are slowly bonding with Jonas. I especially love the breastfeeding time when I can hold him and watch how he reacts.
Jonas may be going home tomorrow or Wed - depending on the doc.
My only hope now is, Tinkles will bond with him too, and we will develop a healthy family together, where 3 truly becomes 4!
So, from Daddy, Mummy and Tinkles - HAPPY BIRTH DAY JONAS and welcome to our family!
- Mood: ecstatic
23 May, 2009
I am scheduled to be admitted into TMC tonight at 23:00, to prep for induction for Jonas's arrival.
We were all really excited at first, cos we are finally able to see and hold him.
Ideally, I would want to welcome Jonas in a jolly mood - it's a happy occasion afterall. However, over the past week, I have been having bad emotional mood swing these past 2 days - I wasn't too bothered about the labour and all. It was mainly the postnatal that I was fearful of. Not knowing what to expect, how life will change, how will Tinkles will react, how I am going to miss my personal time with her, my Mom-in-laws/relatives swarming by and fussing over the baby... etc, etc...
AND, to worsen the situation, Tinkles contracted eye ulcer last evening out of the blue!! I brought her to the groomer yesterday afternoon and when she was back, I couldn't tell that anything was wrong was her. Then at around 6-ish pm, i noticed suddenly that her right eye could not open and she was teary on both eyes. I quickly brought her to ARC and the doc diagnosed that Tinkles had ulcer in her eye! She shone an ultraviolet light into her eyes and I could see a white dot in the center of her eye! The doctor said that it will take between 7-10 days for her recovery and she needs to return for checkup on 1 June.
I was so down after that. With the new baby and all... where do I find the time to look after Tinkles? This really came at an untimely period. I wanted to be able to focus on Jonas from today till the time after he's born. I wasn't that prepared to cope with managing 2 children. SIGH!
I was also thinking if this could be a sign that Jonas doesn't want to be induced? Am i doing the right thing? Should I have waited till he comes naturally? I am still pondering over these today...
Anyway, I am now making plans for someone to take care of Tinkles. I hope everything works out so that I can really have a peace of mind to prepare for Jonas's delivery.
Couldn't sleep last night, kept thinking about it... I need to discuss with Daddy first on a solution.
I am so sorry Jonas. It's meant to be YOUR time, and yet we are all still so distracted - with work, with things like these that happen... I promise I will find a solution soon and be mentally/emotionally ready for you! Mummy promise you that ok.
Write later after I have my plan sorted out.
Hang in there baby.
- Mood: worried
Here's what I got from the net... Noticed how Jonas Tay adds up to 24 - his EDD :)
You entered: Jonas Tay There are 8 letters in your name.
Those 8 letters total to 24
There are 3 vowels and 5 consonants in your name.
What your first name means:
Swedish | Male | Dove. |
Spanish | Male | Dove. Variant of Hebrew Jonah. |
Hebrew | Male | Gift from God. |
Biblical | Male | A dove; he that oppresses; destroyer |
Your number is: 6
The characteristics of #6 are: Responsibility, protection, nurturing, community, balance, sympathy.
The expression or destiny for #6:
The number 6 Expression provides you a truly outstanding sense of responsibility, love, and balance. The 6 is helpful and ever conscientious, making you quite capable of rectifying and balancing any sort of inharmonious situation. You are a person very much inclined to give help and comfort to those in need. You have a natural penchant for working with the old, the young, the sick, or the underprivileged. Although you may have considerable creative and artistic talents, the chances are that you will devote yourself to an occupation that shows concern for the betterment of the community.
The positive side of the number 6 suggests that you are very loving, friendly, and appreciative of others. You have a depth of understanding that produces much sympathetic, kindness, and generosity. The qualities of the 6 make the finest and most concerned parent and one often deeply involved in domestic activities. Openness and honesty is apparent in your approach to all relationships.
If there is an excess of the number 6 in your makeup, you may exhibit some of the negative traits associated with this number. There may be a tendency for you to be too exacting and demanding of yourself. In this regard, you may at times sacrifice yourself (or your loved ones) for the welfare of others. In some cases, the over zealous 6 has difficulty distinguishing helping from interfering. You may have difficulty expressing your own individuality, because of involvement with responsibilities and causes. Like all with the Expression of the number 6, it's quite likely that you worry much too much.
Your Soul Urge number is: 8
A Soul Urge number of 8 means:
With an 8 soul urge, you have a natural flair for big business and the challenges imposed by the commercial world. Power, status and success are very important to you. You have strong urges to supervise, organize and lead. Material desires are also very pronounced. You have good executive abilities, and with these, confidence, energy and ambition.
Your mind is analytical and judgment sound; you're a good judge of material values and also human character. Self-controlled, you rarely let emotions cloud judgment. You are somewhat of an organizer at heart, and you like to keep those beneath you organized and on a proper track. This is a personality that wants to lead, not follow. You want to be known for your planning ability and solid judgment.
The negative aspects of the 8 soul urge are the often dominating and exacting attitude. You may have a tendency to be very rigid, sometimes stubborn.
Your Inner Dream number is: 7
An Inner Dream number of 7 means:
You dream of having the opportunity to read, study, and shut yourself off from worldly distractions. You can see yourself as a teacher, mystic, or ecclesiastic, spending your life in the pursuit of knowledge and learning.
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